Counseling for Families: Healing Your Inner Child to be a Better Parent

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The inner child is a concept that refers to a person’s inner state of being, the emotions and memories that were formed in childhood and still affect them today.  

Healing the inner child, through counseling for families, can have a profound impact on parenting, allowing adults to form healthy parent-child relationships that are rooted in empathy, acceptance, and understanding. When a parent has unresolved wounds from their own childhood, it can manifest in their parenting styles and interactions with their child.  These wounds may present themselves in various ways such as: 

  1. Overprotectiveness: A parent who experienced neglect or abandonment as a child may be overly protective of their own child, constantly monitoring their activities and worrying about their safety.
  2. Enmeshment: A parent who lacked boundaries in their own childhood may struggle with setting healthy boundaries for their child, leading to an enmeshed relationship where the child feels suffocated and unable to develop their own sense of self.
  3. Emotional Instability: A parent who experienced trauma or abuse in their childhood may struggle with regulating their own emotions and may react impulsively or excessively to their child’s behavior, leading to an unpredictable and unstable environment for the child.
  4. Avoidance: A parent who experienced emotional pain or shame in their childhood may avoid addressing their own feelings and struggles, leading to a lack of emotional attunement with their child’s emotional needs.
  5. Control: A parent who felt powerless or out of control in their own childhood may attempt to exert control over their child, leading to a rigid and authoritarian parenting style that stifles the child’s autonomy and independence.

With a healed inner child, you can develop a better relationship with your own parenting.  Improved awareness allows you to understand your children’s feelings from their perspective and respond to them in a more compassionate way.  Seeing events from your children’s perspective allows you to be consistent in discipline and gives you the ability to empathize and be responsive rather than reactive when faced with emotionally charged situations.  By understanding the often complex feelings and needs of both children and parents, improved awareness can allow you to remain firm in disciplinary issues while remaining loving and supportive.

Ultimately, healing the inner child enables a renewed sense of compassion and understanding when it comes to parenting.  This type of compassionate parenting relies on open communication between parents and children to promote an environment of acceptance, security, and safety.  Parenting with a healed inner child allows you to be more open to teaching moments and to form meaningful, life-long relationships with your children. The ability to foster a secure and safe space for your children to express their feelings, beliefs, and opinions creates a platform for mutual trust and understanding, leading to healthier and more meaningful interactions.

By healing the inner child, you can learn to become a better and more mindful parent. Becoming aware of past unresolved emotions allows for more meaningful communication and understanding, creating a foundation of trust and safety in a nurturing environment that is essential for any successful parent-child relationship.

It takes a village and HopeNation is igniting a movement to support parents and children on the journey to better mental health. 

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